<p>"I realised that the people who don't hurt anyone's feelings will end up suffering themselves."</p>

<p><strong>Gaze Back was published in 2018, and it&rsquo;s being picked up by the University of Georgia Press for distribution in North America. What&rsquo;s next for you?</strong></p>
<p>I&rsquo;m currently working on a book called Oscar Rosary &ndash; it&rsquo;s a reference to Oscar Wilde &ndash; and it&rsquo;ll be out later this year. It&rsquo;s quite different from Gaze Back because it&rsquo;s much more personal. It talks about my relationship with religion, as well as my earliest experiences with queer figures. And Oscar Wilde is such a mythicised figure &ndash; he&rsquo;s a concept, almost. So using that, and just putting Singaporean symbolism all over it &ndash; there&rsquo;s a poem in the book about slaughtering chickens. That came from my parents, when they &ndash; very suddenly &ndash; decided to tell me how to slaughter chickens over dinner.</p>
<p>My parents love to spring these types of things on me: The other day they were telling me about how they wanted me to dispose of their bodies. They&rsquo;re very laissez-faire about the idea of death &ndash; which is nice, I think, because I feel a lot of people&rsquo;s parents threaten them with the idea of their deaths.</p>

<p><strong>You&rsquo;ve referred to yourself several times as a &ldquo;disobedient woman&rdquo;; you mentioned that your debut book, Gaze Back, came from a place of &ldquo;discontent.&rdquo; Where does all this come from?</strong></p>
<p>It&rsquo;s a reaction to the kind of disciplines that I was subjected to when I was a child. And it didn&rsquo;t take at all: People would be like, &lsquo;you can&rsquo;t be rude. You can&rsquo;t hurt people&rsquo;s feelings&rsquo; &ndash; but I realised that the people who don&rsquo;t hurt anyone&rsquo;s feelings will end up suffering themselves.</p>
<p>There is definitely a certain way to perform &lsquo;goodness&rsquo; as a woman. When you grow up religious, there are a lot of rules dictating what you can or cannot do. I feel like when you grow up in an all-girls school, there&rsquo;s this additional instinct to value what is well-mannered and polite and convenient for the status quo. And I think pretty much that&rsquo;s generally what school is, right? Pious obedience.</p>
<p>Weirdly enough, there was less of a certain sort of policing in an all-girls school. The general consensus is that you&rsquo;re all girls &ndash; so if your bra strap is showing, it&rsquo;s not kosher, but there isn&rsquo;t that reaction of: &lsquo;There are men around!&rsquo; From what I hear from my friends who went to co-ed schools, as a girl, you become very aware of the male gaze. You constantly, constantly have to think about how you appear to boys, whereas I didn&rsquo;t actually think about that until I was older.</p>

<p><strong>Since you became the first female winner of the Singapore Literature Prize for English poetry, you&rsquo;ve often been referred to in terms of your gender. Do you ever tire of that?</strong></p>
<p>Sometimes I feel, &lsquo;Why does my gender have to be such a big deal?&rsquo; But as my friend, the filmmaker Kirsten Tan, says: &lsquo;I identify more with being non-binary, but I&rsquo;m happy to be listed as a female filmmaker, because there are just so few of them.&rsquo; And I feel the same way. It&rsquo;s okay to make a big deal out of my gender, because we haven&rsquo;t really come that far in terms of representing women in poetry; if it&rsquo;s going to be ground- breaking, I&rsquo;m happy to break that ground.</p>

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Poet Marylyn Tan on why she is unafraid of being seen as a "disobedient woman"

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